So, You Want To Be a Sex God
It’s not secret that it is nearly every man’s dream to become a God in the bedroom. Most focus on finding that one secret that will make every woman orgasm on demand, but fail to realize that no two women are the same, and what may have had your ex screaming in ecstasy may only be “meh” for your new partner.
Becoming a sex God is more about learning how to seduce and read people rather than turning your hand 90 degrees to the left and humming kumbaya for 2 minutes. There is no secret formula that will turn you into a God overnight, but there are tips you can follow to help you get there a bit faster than you currently are. Avoid these mistakes and you’ll quickly be on your way to learning how to please every woman you date!
Sex Starts in the Bedroom
Sex starts when you wake up. Sex starts hours before you even near the bed or start taking off your clothes. Before you can have a woman begging for you, you must first get her thinking about you. While you’re at work, send her risky text messages to hint that you’re thinking about how soft her skin it. Come up behind her and playfully grab her butt while you are grocery shopping. Nibble on her ear while you’re watching a movie together. Put on a slow song after dinner and dance with her in the kitchen.
Doing little things through the day to remind her that you want her and keep you on her mind will have her wanting you just as bad as you want her. Sex doesn’t start in the bedroom, it’s starts with seduction while you’re grabbing coffee in the morning. If you do it right, you won’t even make it to the bedroom, she’ll start ripping your clothes off as soon as you get through the door.
Sex is Just Intercourse
Once the clothes do start falling off, your end goal isn’t to cum – it isn’t even to get her to cum. Your end goal is for both of you to be fully and completely satisfied. Start slow and take your time, penetration isn’t the whole meal, it’s just the entre. While you have been seducing your partner all day, now is the time to ramp it up and have them begging for you to be inside of them.
Explore your partner’s erogenous zones, taking time to kiss, lick, nibble, and bite every inch of their body. Explore their body with your hands, tongue, and fingers. Taking your time to give them orgasm from oral pleasures, or at least push them towards the edge of an orgasm. If you’re unsure what they like, pay attention to their cues.
Ignoring Her Cues
Everyone gives off verbal and nonverbal cues when being pleasured. Whether they’re screaming your name or silently biting their lip while desperately clinging to the bedsheets. Learning and paying attention to your partners cues will help you learn what they do and do not like. When you find something that they react positively to, keep doing it. If they look bored or blatantly tell you to stop, you aren’t causing them any pleasure and there is no use in continuing.
Everyone has their own cues, so you should take time to learn what your partner does when they are enjoying something you’re doing. A couple of signs that are common include verbal affirmation (oh god, yes, keep doing that, etc), panting and moaning, and arching the back. These are only a couple of examples, and as I said, signs vary from person to person.
Doing the Same Old Same Old
You may think that your oral skills are the bomb, or that doggy style is the only position that you’re good it, but chances are that if you do the same thing every time you have sex – your partner may be tiring of it. Having sex in the same position, with the same moves, only in the bedroom can get incredibly boring.
Try changing up your routine a bit. Have sex on the kitchen table or the porch. Explore different positions and different kinks. There are so many different kinks that even the most vanilla person is bound to find on that they enjoy. Try a new hobby, like rope bondage! Swapping up your routine and trying new things can bring passion and excitement into the bedroom that you can’t even imagine!
Being a God in the bedroom isn’t about learning that one special secret. There is no formula to make every woman you know cum on the spot. Doing the same things every time you have sex is only going to bore your partner – even if you’re enjoying it. Having sex isn’t all about getting off as quickly as possible. It isn’t even about getting off. Having sex is about enjoying your time with your partner, getting to know one another, and provide one another with pleasure that you’re not going to get from hiking or hanging out with the guys watching football.
Having sex is about learning about one another and enjoying each others intimate company. In order to become a sex God, you need to learn your partner’s cues and do what they like – not what you think they’ll like. Start by seducing your partner hours before you’ll even be together, let them know you’re thinking about them and how good you made them feel the last time you were together. Don’t go straight for penetration when you are finally alone, and pay close attention to their verbal and nonverbal cues.