Just as not all men are able to dry orgasm, keep in mind that not all women are able to squirt. While these tips are intended to help you to get your partner to squirt – they may not work for everyone. If these tips do not work for you, keep trying, take your time, and remember that your partner may just not physically be able to! The beginning of this guide will hold the most important information and none of the first steps should be skipped. The latter part of the guide will include a variety of tips that different individuals may or may not find pleasurable. Do not skip the first portion, but be sure to play around with the last few tips!
If your partner has never had a squirting orgasm before, it is important to go over what is going to happen, what is expected, and set the tone for open communication. Reassure your partner that you are doing this for two reasons: 1. You want her to feel good and 2. You think it is hot. You should also reassure her that it is okay if she is unable to squirt, because not everyone is able to and because the pressure can make it impossible.
You should prepare a couple of towels, a lot of lube, and a glass of water. You are going to want to place a folded up towel under her so that her focus is directed away from worrying about making a mess. And keep the lube close by because many of the techniques I mention below require time or slipperiness.
Start with a massage or a nice night. Make sure that your partner does not have anything worrisome on her mind (dirty dishes, whether you are into it or not, etc). If she is coming over to your place, take a little while to clean up your room before she gets there so she is not distracted. If you have roommates, make sure they are out for the night. Do what you can to make sure your partner is relaxed and comfortable. This will make making her squirt so much easier.
After you have talked about squirting, addressed all of her concerns, and prepared the necessary items – it is time to get her excited. Most of the time women have a hard time merely getting off if they are not excited and properly aroused. Take your time with before and during foreplay. If you need some pointers on how to up your foreplay game and ensure that she is really into it, check out this article.
Once you have ensured that she is aroused and excited to squirt, give her a couple of orgasms. After a woman orgasms the first time it is easier for her to orgasm the second time. Orgasms also help her to relax and be more open to trying new things, such as squirting.
The first technique involves locking your fingers in a position against her g-spot and moving your entire arm to massage her g-spot. To find the g-spot, stick your fingers about 2 knuckles deep into her vagina and feel on the upper wall of her vagina, just below her belly button, for a rough patch. Once you find that area, stroke if for a few moments in a come hither motion, and then move your entire arm to pull your fingers into and push them away from the g-spot. This technique may take some time, you will need to use a lot of lube, and you may get tired. This will take practice and patience.
If your partner has squirted before, but is having trouble doing so again, complete the steps 1-5 and then try using a vibrator. A lot of women squirt from pressing a powerful vibrator, such as the Hitachi, against their clit and holding it there until they reach orgasm. Continuing to hold the vibrator against their clit during and after an orgam will often result in a squirting orgasm.
This technique uses both clitoral and g-spot stimulation. Most women find blended orgasms are the easiest to squirt with. To give her a blended squirting orgasm, simply combine the five tips and two techniques mentioned above!
If you’re determined to make her squirt during intercourse, this will take a lot of practice and patience. Most women who are able to squirt this way report that it is most frequently done in doggy style with a penis that is able to comfortably and consistently hit her g-spot. If your penis is too long or short, you can try only going half way in or using an extension. If she is able to reach squirting orgasm this way, be sure to pull out as she’s cumming in order to be able to watch the show.
Remember, do not make this about the show and enjoy the experience. Putting too much pressure on your partner to squirt will have the opposite effect. If you follow these steps and are able to make her squirt, clean up will be as easy as throwing the towels in the wash and jumping in the shower. Be sure to use a lot of quality lube, I recommend silicone or hybrid and have fun!