When it comes to sex it is no surprise that the ever ready men are eager to skip foreplay and skip right to penetration. Unfortunately, foreplay is an essential part in sex for women and skipping it could mean the risk of sacrificing her pleasure! If you are looking to better your bedroom game and up your chances of her being just as satisfied afterwards as you are, you cannot skip foreplay! Just like you would not skip stretching before hitting it hard at the gym, you should not skip foreplay if you want to ensure that everyone involved is enjoying themselves.
Tip 1: Start Before the Bedroom
Foreplay should start hours before you even get in the bedroom. Send sexy texts throughout the day, detail what you want to do later that night or remind her of an especially erotic time you have spent together in the past. Women love thinking about past experiences they have had with their partner, and it is guaranteed to get their engines revving if you bring it up!
If sexy texts are not your forte, try whispering something sweet in her ear, gently grabbing her rear, or trailing your fingers up and down her arm. Touch is a fantastic and undervalued tool of early foreplay. Trailing your fingers up and down her arm, tracing the outline of her lips, or even a quick and gentle touch of her face. Explore her body through your fingertips, it does not even have to be sexual to have her aching for more.
Tip 2: Explore Other Erogenous Zones
Speaking of touch, try exploring her other erogenous zones. Breasts and vaginas are not the only areas on a woman’s body that will drive her wild. Try nibbling on or tracing your tongue along the outline of her ear. Explore areas that you find to be sensitive on yourself and watch how she responds. If she sharply inhales, closes her eyes, smiles, or reacts in another positive way, keep going.
As I mentioned before, gentle touching is an undervalued way to turn a partner on. Trace the outline of her lips with your fingertip or lightly run the palm of your hand up her bare arms. Explore how she responds to your touch and which parts of her body cause the most intense reactions. When you come across an area on her body that she enjoys having touched or caressed, move to licking, kissing, nibbling, and maybe even biting that area.
Tip 3: Use Pleasure Implements
Many people are intimidated by sex toys, but the adult market is so vast that you are not limited to just insertable toys. Vibrators make great implements for exploring those aforementioned erogenous zones. Try running a buzzy, bullet vibrator over her nipples or the arches of her feet. Use a stronger vibrator, like the hitachi, for back massages.
If you are feeling especially adventurous, explore with feather, wartenberg wheels, silk, chains, etc. Different implements will provide different sensations, and there is a lot out there to explore with. If you do not have much on hand you can always find things to run across your partner’s skin or use for texture play around the house! Pearl necklaces and silk scarves can be a great addition to regular touch.
Tip 4: Try Some Roleplay
Roleplaying may seem awkward and new to most couples, but entering into a different role or using it to fulfil a fantasy can be a great way to start the roleplaying early in the day and build anticipation for a risque night. Some popular ideas include an adult twist on cops and robbers, your favorite characters from a TV series or movie, or try pretending you have the wrong number when texting through the day.
Whatever you choose to do, be sure to discuss the details of it with your partner before just slipping into character. Having a general idea of what you and your partner are into will help the roleplay run smoother and give you a better idea on how to play your part to the best of your ability. Let your imagination run wild and use this trick to play on some fantasies you or your partner may have!
Tip 5: Try Something New
Many couples use BDSM to spice things up in the bedroom, but it can also be used outside of the bedroom to build up to a “scene” later on in the day. After discussing how your partner would feel about it, try laying out their clothes and a toy you want them to use during the day. Send them little tasks through the day that would build up the anticipation for your plans that night. Be sure to discuss how they want to feel, what they are comfortable doing, and what they expect from the “scene” later on that night before just jumping into this one! BDSM can be amazing if done right.
Foreplay is an essential part of sex for female partners. They crave that build up and need to be in the right mindset before they are as eager for sex as their male counterparts. While most men tend to think foreplay is a waste of time and want to skip right to penetration, it is important for her pleasure that you take your time and build up to it.
Whether you are bring new toys into the bedroom, exploring new sensations, or just sexting through the day, it will be sure to help your partner anticipate and crave sex with you. For women, anticipation and teasing is half the fun!