What started as Cleopatra’s gourd full of bees has exploded into a huge market of female pleasure products. While the gourd full of bees may not be the first vibrator, we have come a long way from using insects for pleasure and now there are so many toys on the market that it’s hard to keep track. From pussy pumps to AI vibrators, there’s so much to choose from that it can be overwhelming.
So if you’re looking to buy a toy for your woman you may find yourself lost on where to start. The first thing you should consider is the material and if she prefers internal or external stimulation when you play with her without toys. If she already has toys, take note of which ones she reaches for the most often. Once you have an idea of what type of stimulation she enjoys, it’s time to start looking at toys. My top five suggestions for sex toys for her are the Slaphappy, the Hitachi, We-Vibe Tango, Penguin Satisfyer, Lelo Gigi, or any glass didlo.
The Slaphappy was created by Ladygasm and is a silicone, waterproof vibrator that bends to fit your needs. There are 8 patterns to cycle through and the vibrations are focused in the tip of the vibrator for an intense orgasm. It requires 2 AA batteries and is whisper quiet. You can use the Slaphappy to hit your clit or g-spot, it’s easy to use with a partner, and can even be used as a couples c-shaped vibrator. The ability to bend makes the Slaphappy a versatile, fun vibrator!
Everyone has heard of the Hitachi. It is a wand style vibrator that plugs into the wall. The Hitachi has been around for so long that it is easy to pick out the knock offs. This classic wand is a powerhouse hidden behind a modest design. It comes with a three option switch: off, low, and high. There is no inbetween and this toy is not for people new to the wide world of sex toys nor is it a great option for people who don’t enjoy powerful vibrations.
If your partner enjoys straight vibrations and can handle the power provided by a Hitachi wand, this is the perfect toy for them! You can use it to tease their nipples, massage their back, or go straight for the clit. While the Hitachi isn’t great for watching your partner use nor is it ideal for partnered sex, it is fantastic for teasing and strong orgasms.
If your partner loves the power provided by a Hitachi, but is looking for something more versatile, the We-Vibe Tango is a smaller, just as powerful alternative. The We-Vibe Tango can be just as strong as the Hitachi, but is smaller, has more vibration options, and rechargeable. The We-Vibe Tango doesn’t bind you to a wall and can even be used in the shower.
The We-Vibe Tango is a bullet sized vibrator that packs a punch comparable to the Hitachi. It it operated by a single push button on the bottom of the device and can be used to stimulate the nipples, clit, or even be used during partnered sex. It is small and portable enough to be used anywhere. To get the best use of the We-Vibe Tango I recommend starting on low and teasing your partners labia, then moving closer to the clit as you ramp up the vibration speed.
If you’re unsure that your partner would enjoy vibrations or if she has explicitly started that she doesn’t enjoy them, the Penguin Satisfyer would be a fantastic alternative. This toy provides stimulation directly to the clit through pulsations rather than by vibrations. It is also rechargeable and waterproof. The Penguin Satisfyer is great for using on small areas, such as the nipples, clit, or inner labia.
The Penguin Satisfyer can be used with a partner or for solo play. While not as versatile, it is a great alternative to vibrating clitoral stimulators. Use it in conjunction with oral sex to give your partner an explosive orgasm or take it in the shower for a pulsing surprise.
Maybe your partner has expressed that they prefer internal stimulation over clitoral. In that case the Lelo Gigi is a powerful g-spot vibrator with a delicious curve. It has a broad head for overall g-spot stimulation and the vibrations travel well enough that it is sure to give anyone an orgasm – even those just discovering their g-spot!
If your partner does prefer g-spot stimulation over clitoral, but doesn’t like vibrations, almost any cuvred glass didlo on the market will be a great option! Glass dildos are versatile in that they’re amazing for temperature play, provide firm stimulation, and are body safe. Glass dildos can be warmed up by being placed against your body or cooled down by being run under cold water. Since glass is a firm material, glass dildos provide a pressure on the g-spot that is hard to come by with other toys. They’re easy to clean and can be shared because they’re nonporous. If you’re looking to get your woman her first toy and you are unsure what she may or may not like, you cannot go wrong with a small, curved glass dildo: like the Bent Graduate.
When using glass dildos be sure to use lube and go slow. Communication is key to having an amazing experience with glass toys. It is easy to bruise your partners cervix if you get too aggressive with a glass dildo, so be sure to pay attention to her verbal and nonverbal cues.
Whether you know what your partner likes or not, wading through the millions of sex toys available for women to find the perfect gift can be overwhelming, but with these 5 suggestions, you can’t go wrong! No matter what she likes, from gently curved glass dildos to powerful wands, you’re sure to find something on this list that she will absolutely love!