What started as Cleopatra’s gourd full of bees has exploded into a huge market of female pleasure products. While the gourd full of bees may not be the first vibrator, we have come a long way from using insects for pleasure and now there are so many toys on the market that it’s hard to keep track. From pussy pumps to AI vibrators, there’s so much to choose from that it can be overwhelming.

So if you’re looking to buy a toy for your woman you may find yourself lost on where to start. The first thing you should consider is the material and if she prefers internal or external stimulation when you play with her without toys. If she already has toys, take note of which ones she reaches for the most often. Once you have an idea of what type of stimulation she enjoys, it’s time to start looking at toys. My top five suggestions for sex toys for her are the Slaphappy, the Hitachi, We-Vibe Tango, Penguin Satisfyer, Lelo Gigi, or any glass didlo.

The Slaphappy was created by Ladygasm and is a silicone, waterproof vibrator that bends to fit your needs. There are 8 patterns to cycle through and the vibrations are focused in the tip of the vibrator for an intense orgasm. It requires 2 AA batteries and is whisper quiet. You can use the Slaphappy to hit your clit or g-spot, it’s easy to use with a partner, and can even be used as a couples c-shaped vibrator. The ability to bend makes the Slaphappy a versatile, fun vibrator!

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Everyone has heard of the Hitachi. It is a wand style vibrator that plugs into the wall. The Hitachi has been around for so long that it is easy to pick out the knock offs. This classic wand is a powerhouse hidden behind a modest design. It comes with a three option switch: off, low, and high. There is no inbetween and this toy is not for people new to the wide world of sex toys nor is it a great option for people who don’t enjoy powerful vibrations.

If your partner enjoys straight vibrations and can handle the power provided by a Hitachi wand, this is the perfect toy for them! You can use it to tease their nipples, massage their back, or go straight for the clit. While the Hitachi isn’t great for watching your partner use nor is it ideal for partnered sex, it is fantastic for teasing and strong orgasms.

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If your partner loves the power provided by a Hitachi, but is looking for something more versatile, the We-Vibe Tango is a smaller, just as powerful alternative. The We-Vibe Tango can be just as strong as the Hitachi, but is smaller, has more vibration options, and rechargeable. The We-Vibe Tango doesn’t bind you to a wall and can even be used in the shower.

The We-Vibe Tango is a bullet sized vibrator that packs a punch comparable to the Hitachi. It it operated by a single push button on the bottom of the device and can be used to stimulate the nipples, clit, or even be used during partnered sex. It is small and portable enough to be used anywhere. To get the best use of the We-Vibe Tango I recommend starting on low and teasing your partners labia, then moving closer to the clit as you ramp up the vibration speed.

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If you’re unsure that your partner would enjoy vibrations or if she has explicitly started that she doesn’t enjoy them, the Penguin Satisfyer would be a fantastic alternative. This toy provides stimulation directly to the clit through pulsations rather than by vibrations. It is also rechargeable and waterproof. The Penguin Satisfyer is great for using on small areas, such as the nipples, clit, or inner labia.

The Penguin Satisfyer can be used with a partner or for solo play. While not as versatile, it is a great alternative to vibrating clitoral stimulators. Use it in conjunction with oral sex to give your partner an explosive orgasm or take it in the shower for a pulsing surprise.

Maybe your partner has expressed that they prefer internal stimulation over clitoral. In that case the Lelo Gigi is a powerful g-spot vibrator with a delicious curve. It has a broad head for overall g-spot stimulation and the vibrations travel well enough that it is sure to give anyone an orgasm – even those just discovering their g-spot!

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If your partner does prefer g-spot stimulation over clitoral, but doesn’t like vibrations, almost any cuvred glass didlo on the market will be a great option! Glass dildos are versatile in that they’re amazing for temperature play, provide firm stimulation, and are body safe. Glass dildos can be warmed up by being placed against your body or cooled down by being run under cold water. Since glass is a firm material, glass dildos provide a pressure on the g-spot that is hard to come by with other toys. They’re easy to clean and can be shared because they’re nonporous. If you’re looking to get your woman her first toy and you are unsure what she may or may not like, you cannot go wrong with a small, curved glass dildo: like the Bent Graduate.

When using glass dildos be sure to use lube and go slow. Communication is key to having an amazing experience with glass toys. It is easy to bruise your partners cervix if you get too aggressive with a glass dildo, so be sure to pay attention to her verbal and nonverbal cues.

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Whether you know what your partner likes or not, wading through the millions of sex toys available for women to find the perfect gift can be overwhelming, but with these 5 suggestions, you can’t go wrong! No matter what she likes, from gently curved glass dildos to powerful wands, you’re sure to find something on this list that she will absolutely love!


  1. My wife and I have a Slaphappy and we use it all the time. It always feels good for her, lasts a while for a vibrator, and is easy to clean. Usually I use it on her to get her really really wet and at the point where she cums just when I touch her! Then when I’m in her I can use it to vibrate against her and she cums like crazy all over my dick.

    She uses it on her own too. She can use it as much as she wants, I can use it on her as long as I want and hear her moan in total ecstacy. She can cum forever. And I make her with the Slaphappy!

  2. The best toy to get your woman is something to get her clit going or if she’s into anal something like a butt plug. A girl is going to buy her own toys for getting off by herself so if you’re going to buy her something get her something that she’ll enjoy with you. Ignore this list, let her get these herself.

    • The tango, hitachi, and penguin can all be used with a partner. I would be ecstatic if my guy came home with a hitachi! I already have a penguin and a tango and use them ALL THE TIME with my partners. This list is better than the ones in cosmo suggesting only insertables and mostly jelly toys. At least these are high-quality suggestions.

  3. Thank God for this list. My 1 yr anniversary with my girlfriend is coming up. She tells me she wants me to tease her with some toys but I can’t use hers. WHAT THE HECK So now I have to buy some stuff for her and I want it to be good for her. Nothing like when she’s weeeeeeeeet. So this is good to have. I might be all of them and let her have her pick.

  4. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH That PENGUIN! I haven’t see anything that cute since I got those Lifesavers themed mini vibrators that came in cute little packages!! I can’t believe I’ve never seen it before and it sounds really good to use. And if I use a cold glass dildo or something with it that’d be so awesome!

    I want one sooo bad!!!!

  5. You can totally use the Hitachi Wand during sex! I mean the cord is a little annoying but as long as there’s a plug near your bed the best angle is missionary but like when you’re upright. Then you or the girl holds the Hitachi Wand on her clit while it vibrates and if you go gently not only can you feel it vibrate but you’ll get to feel the powerful orgasm she’ll get from it.
    That smaller vibrator We-Vibe Tango might work too but we don’t have one so I don’t really know how well that compares to a Hitachi, but the Hitachi is definitely amazing. My wife swears by it!

  6. These are good toys to get a woman but don’t buy a glass anything unless you know she likes them. I wasted too much money on a nice one and my girlfriend at the time said it was too hard. Good thing I’m not too hard for her LOL

    • Glass can be very tough to get used to. It has absolutely 0 give. If a partner is using it on you it can be incredibly uncomfortable. Maybe let her try it on herself, by herself a few times and see if she warms up to it.

  7. I have that glass toy and it’s the first thing that ever made me cum from just insertion. It’s firm and the bend is so sharp that it’s impossible not to find your g-spot with it.

    Just be careful inserting it and twist it back and forth when you find your g-spot with it.

  8. I have the penguin and the tango. They are the only things I want on my clit anymore. The penguin builds me up to orgasms like I’ve never had in my entire life. The tango sends waves of pleasure through me before I can even get close to an orgasm. Switching between the two is as close to heave as I have ever been. Ladies, y’all need these in your lives.

  9. Fapguy, is there a Fapgirl who can review these for us? They look like a lot of fun, but I’d love to hear a woman’s POV on them before buying any.


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